Do not be bitter to your wife

Husbands, love your wives [be affectionate and sympathetic with them] and do not be harsh or bitter or resentful toward them. (Colossians 3:19 AMP)

I want people to understand why I am writing on this particular verse. There are many articles that contextualize the previous verse:

Wives, be subject to your husbands [subordinate and adapt yourselves to them], as is right and fitting and your proper duty in the Lord (Colossians 3:18 AMP)

So as a man why would I concentrate on the next verse. Simply because it is part of our everyday culture that others should do the changing and not us. When you get married you hopefully have a pretty good idea of your wife to be. You certainly should know the best and worst sides of the woman you are going to marry. But something in us makes us see the high points, they are what we most look at.

As we grow into our marriage, we see the physical and emotional bulges that may have grown a little. I have found it all too easy to be critical of my wife. The fact that those characteristics were there even in the honeymoon phase, if a little more veiled seems unimportant when looking for a reason for being upset.

I am not saying that married women should not continue to make an effort to grow more towards her husband or strive to change habits that seem to irk him. What I am saying that if your wife liked to spend time with her friends chatting and laughing over coffee before she gave her life to Jesus that she will become a a quiet, inward wife, her ministry is likely to be more extrovert full of meeting with her blessed sisters. Perhaps the most obvious picture for this is that when a woman becomes a mother there will be many changes but aside from the desperate things that can burden a woman psychologically after birth, your good lady wife will be at her core the same person. That same woman is the one you fell in love with.

So I am saying be kind with her as she is kind with you. Do not take your frustrations out on your wife simply because she is the first available emotional punchbag.

It will, no doubt be necessary in your walk with Jesus, for you to drink a bitter cup, we know Our Lord had to drink a desperately bitter cup.

Every bitter cup is of God’s preparing, John Bunyan.

So we need not prepare a cup for our wives. They will undoubtedly have their own.

And how do we avoid this embitterment towards our wives?

In one simple way, forgive them and then ask forgiveness for yourself and move on.

A Christian brother


I am not a professional counselor, should there be dangerous and destructive dysfunction between you and your spouse please do seek advice from an expert in this field.


The harvest is plentiful but the laborers are few….

Then he said to his disciples, “The harvest is plentiful, but the laborers are few (Matthew 9:37 ESV)

My dear brothers and sisters in Christ Jesus,

This is a somewhat belated New Year’s letter but I believe that what is written below to all fellow workers in Christ is relevant throughout the year.

What does it mean to be a worker in Christ?

  • That our lives are seen as a shining example to the world and that through our love and works, the Holy Spirit May draw others to God
  • That we pray for all of mankind.
  • That we look to all our brothers and sisters in Christ Jesus with the understanding that though they are at different stages in their walk with Jesus they still have much to offer.
  • That we do not send those away from us who are professing lovers and followers of Jesus because they think differently from us.
  • Yet we do not credit them or find them more worthy than others who do not yet follow Christ, because we know only that it is only at the harvesting and threshing time that we will see whether those professors of Christ belong. To Him or not, whether they are the wheat or the tares.


Dear brothers and sisters in Christ Jesus,

We should have nothing to fear for we have been cleansed by a refiner’s fire and we have been chastised.

Now we live in the Grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, which we must ask for every single day as we pray for Him to give us strength to fulfill His will.

I claim no special powers for I must rely on Christ in me to do the right. I ask only that anyone who sees this message that they strengthen their resolve to live in Christ that those around them may see that and be desirous to be more like children of light.

For that reason, let us anoint ourselves with oil and let Christ’s light shine through our countenance be joyful in these trying times.

May the Lord bless you today,

A Christian brother

A love letter to Our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ

Who ascends to the right Hand of God, who will send a Helper, a Comforter, The Spirit of Truth

Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted (Matthew 5:4 NASB)
My dear brothers and sisters,
There are many reasons for us all to mourn and weep, when we look at the state of the world whether it is some tragedy near at hand or far away, or the general malaise or apathy that takes the world deeper into sin, in other words further from God. It may also be something of more personal nature, struggles at home. 
I am no Greek scholar but I have read that in various translations that where it says Blessed in The Beatitudes, it can be understood to mean: to be happy, spirituality prosperous, joyful in the knowledge that we may rest in the matchless Grace of God. All this to say, being blessed is not some generally good feeling that is here today and gone tomorrow.
After all this is God’s Blessing, and as we know God is without bounds.
So what does it actually mean that we will be comforted when we are mourning?
Tomorrow, May 25, is Ascension when Our Lord, ascended to the Heavens, before leaving His disciples He made the promise to ask His Father for a Helper to comfort them. 
If you love Me, you will keep My commandments. “I will ask the Father, and He will give you another Helper, that He may be with you forever; that is the Spirit of truth, whom the world cannot receive, because it does not see Him or know Him, but you know Him because He abides with you and will be in you (John 14:15 – 14:17 NASB)
Those who believe in Jesus Christ may receive the Holy Spirit, which not only reveals the truth but also gives balm to the soul, Praise The Lord!!!
Let us as the Body, the Bridegroom of Christ, celebrate Our Shepherd’s return to Our Father, waiting expectantly and with purpose for the celebration of Pentecost (Whitsun) on June 4. 
A Christian brother 

Please join me in praying for….

This fallen world!

I look into this world and see,

Temptation all around. 

We must just grow stronger in our faith. 

Let us not deceive ourselves that,

We can push away the juicy temptations

Of the world,

That wink, blink and bling at us,

In our own strength. 

What arrogant pride that is.
Let that hand on our Hand on our shoulder,

That reproving voice,

That pain brought to us, when we feel remorse for our actions.
It is our weakness that allows to become strong,

Through God’s strength in us.
Let us throw ourselves on the Mercy of Our dear Lord!
In His Holy Name,

When we are tempted to walk away from God, after all that is what sinning is, remember these words:
Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. Those things, which ye have both learned, and received, and heard, and seen in me, do: and the God of peace shall be with you (Philippians 4:8 – 4:9 KJV)
A Christian brother 

Amazing Grace, how sweet the sound….

Born again….. the beautiful moment!


John 3, 1-6: King James Version 

There was a man of the Pharisees, named Nicodemus, a ruler of the Jews:

The same came to Jesus by night, and said unto him, Rabbi, we know that thou art a teacher come from God: for no man can do these miracles that thou doest, except God be with him.

Jesus answered and said unto him, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God.

Nicodemus saith unto him, How can a man be born when he is old? can he enter the second time into his mother’s womb, and be born?

Jesus answered, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born of water and of the Spirit, he cannot enter into the kingdom of God.

That which is born of the flesh is flesh; and that which is born of the Spirit is spirit.

What does it mean to be born again? There have undoubtedly been and will be more learned people who have written, and will write about being born again, but this is my experience, my testimony.

When I came to know the Lord so fully that he entered into me, I felt as if completely filled with lightness, not only as in a bright light but also as if I was light in weight, as if the weight of all my sins lifted from me. No one, who has been hiking with a backpack will deny that when they take it off at the end of the day there is a relief and a release. I cannot truly compare being born again to that because that is a purely physical experience. However, when I look at Christ suffering on the Cross, as He died to save the sins of all who have the Grace of Christ being brought into their hearts. This is the moment that is so beautiful, but we must never forget that linked to this in repentance, literally having a new mind! Nothing sticks, if you experience Grace and believe because you have received it, you can now go merrily through life without a care in the world. This is in my opinion like the sower, whose seeds fell on stony ground.

Matthew 13 1-9, King James Version

13 The same day went Jesus out of the house, and sat by the sea side.

And great multitudes were gathered together unto him, so that he went into a ship, and sat; and the whole multitude stood on the shore.

And he spake many things unto them in parables, saying, Behold, a sower went forth to sow;

And when he sowed, some seeds fell by the way side, and the fowls came and devoured them up:

Some fell upon stony places, where they had not much earth: and forthwith they sprung up, because they had no deepness of earth:

And when the sun was up, they were scorched; and because they had no root, they withered away.

And some fell among thorns; and the thorns sprung up, and choked them:

But other fell into good ground, and brought forth fruit, some an hundredfold, some sixtyfold, some thirtyfold.

Who hath ears to hear, let him hear.

The grace is given, but it is used up if it is not fed by continuously going back to the Source,  this source is, of course Jesus Christ. Just as Our Father gave Manna from Heaven to the Israelites in the desert every day, so we receive Grace from Heaven every day, and with that Grace when temptations or thorny moments come up there is strength to overcome. That amazing Grace feeds us each day and when we ask for it to come to us the Holy Spirit shines down upon us lighting the way.
When we die to sin with Christ on the cross, giving up our will to the Will of God, we are born again, God gives us new life, a way to live on after the death of the physical. This new life anoints us and allows the Holy Spirit to flow through us.

But now is Christ risen from the dead, and become the firstfruits of them that slept. For since by man came death, by man came also the resurrection of the dead. For as in Adam all die, even so in Christ shall all be made alive. But every man in his own order: Christ the firstfruits; afterward they that are Christ’s at his coming. Then cometh the end, when he shall have delivered up the kingdom to God, even the Father; when he shall have put down all rule and all authority and power. For he must reign, till he hath put all enemies under his feet. The last enemy that shall be destroyed is death. For he hath put all things under his feet. But when he saith all things are put under him, it is manifest that he is excepted, which did put all things under him. And when all things shall be subdued unto him, then shall the Son also himself be subject unto him that put all things under him, that God may be all in all

(1 Corinthians 15:20 – 28 KJV)

It is that death that brings us to eternal life and salvation.

A Christian brother

I read this and found it an extraordinarily good article

Let us take our limits away from God

Dear brothers and sisters in Jesus,

Our Church must grow,

There are no limits to its width,

For it must reach over all of mankind.

It must become clear that all races, all people will not be barred from the Church of Our dear Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.

He came to save every last one of His Flock. Repent, dear children of God; come unto  the cross where Your dear Lamb sacrificed Himself to take away your sins. Come to the cross and give yourself to Him, commit to walk in His Love.

Then we are kept safe by Him,

When you can let Him lead you, whatever befalls you, will not come to an ill end.

Let compassion and love fill your heart, then fear and hatred may not enter in.

Arm your heart dear children,

We are all God’s children,

Let us love each other.

Let others know us by our love!

When Jesus asks us to turn the other cheek,

He showed how strong we are when united,

He was telling us that there is no pain that we cannot endure,

When we know that

Our God’s Love will take away every sting and hurt and wound.


A Christian brother

Chaos is frightening!

1 Thou, whose almighty word
chaos and darkness heard,
and took their flight;
hear us, we humbly pray,
and where the gospel-day
sheds not its glorious ray,
let there be light.

2 Thou, who didst come to bring
on thy redeeming wing
healing and sight,
health to the sick in mind,
sight to the inly blind,
O now to all mankind
let there be light.

3 Spirit of truth and love,
life-giving, holy Dove,
speed forth thy flight;
move on the water’s face,
bearing the lamp of grace,
and in earth’s darkest place
let there be light.

4 Holy and blessèd Three,
glorious Trinity,
Wisdom, Love, Might;
boundless as ocean’s tide
rolling in fullest pride,
through the earth far and wide
let there be light.


In the last months, the world appears to have gone mad. Intolerance towards other human beings and what they believe. As Followers of Jesus Christ, we do not use violence.

Our hearts should be filled with compassion for those who we believe are not on the right path. We may be indignant when it comes to unbiblical behaviors, actions and thoughts but it is not for us to be hateful in our actions or thoughts.

Abortion is a hateful practice to me, I believe all life comes from God and that no one has the right but Him to end it. I believe that there are many ways to deal with a child who wishes to be born of a mother. How many wonderful couples are there who want children.

But the woman who takes the step to end life within her, should be treated with compassion, despite or because of the action she took. Imagine the how much more likely a woman is to come into the fold of Our Lord, when wretched with remorse she feels welcome. Who shall cast the first stone?

This does not mean that I am against closing down baby death facilities, or as pro abortion parties call them, planned parenthood clinics. It is NOT up to us to plan parenthood.

Every last soul should be welcomed into the Church of Our Lord Jesus Christ. Can you imagine what could happen, when compassion would be the watchword for lost souls, rather than judgement.

Blessed is the nation whose God is the LORD; and the people whom he hath chosen for his own inheritance (Psalm 33:12 KJV)

We live in a world where Our Lord God, is not sovereign over nations, rather we see the  self-righteous and many that clothe religion in hate. Let us not be self-righteous, let us not condemn the abortionist or the for Jesus did not condemn the corrupt in His day.

Cruel and deceitful

Is that tempter,

Who makes us believe

That happiness may come

Through death and destruction,

May come through

Overpowering another.

He,  that tempter

is alive and strong in the world.

Yet he must be shunned,

There is no true joy in:

Lust, avarice,

In earthly power.

Those who kill for God,

Are not His Army.

His Army is LOVE.

His Army loves all souls

Though we rage against

The shackles by which souls are

Oppressed by the ruler of flesh.

Psalm 37

37 Fret not thyself because of evildoers, neither be thou envious against the workers of iniquity.

For they shall soon be cut down like the grass, and wither as the green herb.

Trust in the Lord, and do good; so shalt thou dwell in the land, and verily thou shalt be fed.

Delight thyself also in the Lord: and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart.

Commit thy way unto the Lord; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass.

And he shall bring forth thy righteousness as the light, and thy judgment as the noonday.

Rest in the Lord, and wait patiently for him: fret not thyself because of him who prospereth in his way, because of the man who bringeth wicked devices to pass.

Cease from anger, and forsake wrath: fret not thyself in any wise to do evil.

For evildoers shall be cut off: but those that wait upon the Lord, they shall inherit the earth.

10 For yet a little while, and the wicked shall not be: yea, thou shalt diligently consider his place, and it shall not be.

11 But the meek shall inherit the earth; and shall delight themselves in the abundance of peace.

12 The wicked plotteth against the just, and gnasheth upon him with his teeth.

13 The Lord shall laugh at him: for he seeth that his day is coming.

14 The wicked have drawn out the sword, and have bent their bow, to cast down the poor and needy, and to slay such as be of upright conversation.

15 Their sword shall enter into their own heart, and their bows shall be broken.

16 A little that a righteous man hath is better than the riches of many wicked.

17 For the arms of the wicked shall be broken: but the Lord upholdeth the righteous.

18 The Lord knoweth the days of the upright: and their inheritance shall be for ever.

19 They shall not be ashamed in the evil time: and in the days of famine they shall be satisfied.

20 But the wicked shall perish, and the enemies of the Lord shall be as the fat of lambs: they shall consume; into smoke shall they consume away.

21 The wicked borroweth, and payeth not again: but the righteous sheweth mercy, and giveth.

22 For such as be blessed of him shall inherit the earth; and they that be cursed of him shall be cut off.

23 The steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord: and he delighteth in his way.

24 Though he fall, he shall not be utterly cast down: for the Lord upholdeth him with his hand.

25 I have been young, and now am old; yet have I not seen the righteous forsaken, nor his seed begging bread.

26 He is ever merciful, and lendeth; and his seed is blessed.

27 Depart from evil, and do good; and dwell for evermore.

28 For the Lord loveth judgment, and forsaketh not his saints; they are preserved for ever: but the seed of the wicked shall be cut off.

29 The righteous shall inherit the land, and dwell therein for ever.

30 The mouth of the righteous speaketh wisdom, and his tongue talketh of judgment.

31 The law of his God is in his heart; none of his steps shall slide.

32 The wicked watcheth the righteous, and seeketh to slay him.

33 The Lord will not leave him in his hand, nor condemn him when he is judged.

34 Wait on the Lord, and keep his way, and he shall exalt thee to inherit the land: when the wicked are cut off, thou shalt see it.

35 I have seen the wicked in great power, and spreading himself like a green bay tree.

36 Yet he passed away, and, lo, he was not: yea, I sought him, but he could not be found.

37 Mark the perfect man, and behold the upright: for the end of that man is peace.

38 But the transgressors shall be destroyed together: the end of the wicked shall be cut off.

39 But the salvation of the righteous is of the Lord: he is their strength in the time of trouble.

40 And the Lord shall help them, and deliver them: he shall deliver them from the wicked, and save them, because they trust in him.



We should not be afraid of the hatred, for God will judge righteously.

A Christian brother

We all can belong to Our Lord, Give yourself into the Potters Hands!

Thus we may all follow Jesus Christ!

2 Corinthians 4:7

But we have this treasure in earthen vessels, that the excellency of the power may be of God, and not of us.





Clay is a wonderful and malleable substance to work with.

Can we all ever be glorious earthen vessels created by Our God and Father?

As an aside, a few days ago I was driving on a dirt road that I had driven many times before, it had been resurfaced and it was now wet. It was clay, and driving on it was desperate, until I realized that God works constantly with this substance and he does not force it. For he knows that while He has a plan for each one of us, it is not always possible for us to go the most direct way. That is our pride, believing that we know better, believing that our own will can make doors open, believing that we are strong enough. So I slowed right down and more or less let the car drive as it would gently guiding, my foot hardly touching the brakes or accelerator.

Oh Lord, dear Father,

Thank you for showing us so much faith.

Thankfully our God does not throw us back into the general clay pile, when we fail, but He is ever ready to reform us and recreate us when we humble ourselves before Him.

We are all brothers, sisters, fathers, mothers sons, and daughters!

We do not always care for the actions that our family members take, or things they say, and yet, does Our Heavenly Father, ever disinherit us?

If we can be truthful, the answer is given in the story of the Prodigal Son. And yet, we find excuses for ourselves and others: they are too this or that, or I, I have committed every sin in the book.

Not only is this self-righteous putting ourselves down, it puts out God down. As if HE, El-Shaddai, Our Father, that created Heaven and Earth and everything in it cannot reshape and reform his children.

To believe that we are beyond redemption is an outrageous presumption! It gives Satan way too much power and makes Our  Lord appear weak.

When we give our lives to Jesus, repenting of our sins and being born into the Holy Spirit, we give permission to God start molding us and reshaping our purpose in life. And the earthen vessels contain………

The Glory of God!!!

Hallelujah, hallelujah!!!!

That is what it means by:

Philippians 4:13

13 I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.


When we God starts to mold us as his children, then Christ, His Son may enter into us!!!


Hallelujah, hallelujah!!!! Thanks and Glory to God on the Highest!

A Christian brother

Those who live in Christ do not live in fear!

Now, I have made it clear that I do not write political commentaries! Some people may draw something out of these comments which I wish not to be drawn.

Whatever may be coming towards us, when we know that we are loved by Our God, nothing can bring fear and dread into our hearts.

When we live in the body of Christ, we may be in this world but we need not live should not live under the thrall of this world. Our time in this world may be long or short but as I understand it: the reasons for us to be clothed by a body are:

  • That God is good,
  • That God is sacred and something that is beyond the laws of men,
  • To know that Christ came to suffer for us to take away our sins,
  • To learn that we are not only of the flesh, but being of the flesh makes us automatically sinful by nature,
  • That we may learn to develop a love of all that is not material,
  • That we may learn that there are two masters and that we must choose to serve one, and only one,
  • To learn kindness,
  • To learn compassion,
  • To learn Love,
  • To learn to share with all people,
  • That we may share the glory of God with all our brothers and sisters,

Please add more in your comments if you wish.

Jesus Christ, the only begotten Son of Our Father came to us uno order that sings may be forgiven. He came into a sinful world, a world that had no, or very little connection to God, it was a world full of corruption, lust, fleshly desires and cruelty! He came to bring about a change in the whole wide world.

I have found these links to be very enlightening
A Christian brother